Divorce is rarely an easy process. Even if couples decide to file for a no-fault divorce, usually, the discussions that come after seem to open up issues that may have contributed to why the couple has chosen to file for the divorce. Sadly, such issues make a lot of couples more emotional than they expect themselves to be. When tensions run and emotions seem to heighten, couples end up making poor decisions while in the middle of a heated argument. This then results to a mountain of financial and emotional disasters at a personal level.
But does it always have to end up in a bad light? So instead of focusing on what you should do while in the middle of the divorce, here is another way on how to look at what you are getting yourself into. This is a list of the things you should not do while in the middle of a divorce only because they can affect your ability to make the right decisions that will benefit you in the long run.
First, make all the necessary changes in the legal documents that you have. If you have an outstanding will made, update it after the divorce has been made final. Divorce does not automatically revoke the will; thus, your former spouse might end up getting all the money and privileges that are stated in your will.
Second, don’t dismiss the possibility of filing for a collaborative divorce. When both you and your spouse agree on filing for the divorce, it will make it easier to convince the court that both parties agree that applying for divorce is the only way to end the suffering of both spouses. More importantly, you and your spouse may agree on who gets what through the help of the divorce lawyers you’ve hired.
Third, don’t complicate the situation even more by having a relationship with your lawyer that’s beyond the professional relationship that you have, to begin with. Any form of sexual relationship that you have outside the marriage while the divorce process is still on-going could affect the court’s decision because have been presented. Usually, they do not agree with what you expect.
Lastly, never involve the kids. Knowing that their parents have filed for divorce is already difficult for them. Adding more issues to that by putting the other parent in a bad light will not make things easier. Don’t let it out on the kids. Instead, help them through the process and the changes that it comes with to release the stress that they have to go through.