As anyone who has gone through the divorce process can tell you that what they went through was not easy. Tensions run high and often, couples end up making decisions and saying things in the heat of the moment. Because of the amount of emotional, financial and other practical decisions that need to be done, it is no longer surprising that couples make critical mistakes in the course of the divorce process. Here are some of the things that you definitely should not do.
• Do not get pregnant.
Having the baby during the divorce will only complicate the situation. It might also strip you of your right to file for the divorce. The judge will have second thoughts about granting the divorce because they will think about who will take care of the financial responsibility for raising the child. Although many areas in Canada grant single parents all the rights of those who are married, having a child when you’re in the middle of a marital breakdown can only bring problems in.
• Do not forget to change the details of your will.
Even when the divorce has become final, it will not revoke whatever is stated in your will. So if you want to ensure that your former spouse does not get anything from any of the properties that you leave behind, do not forget to change the details of your will. You may re-do your will at any given time. Make sure to talk about the details with your lawyer.
• Do not miss out on any opportunity for a joint divorce.
If you and your spouse can talk about the impending divorce and the possibility of filing it together, then the chances of you getting approval for it may come faster. When both the husband and the wife agrees to the terms negotiated and agree on the specifics of child custody, child support, and spousal support, then they won’t have any problems during the divorce. All they need is to make sure that both sign up on the agreement with their respective lawyers present.
• Don’t take out the anger on the kids.
Children are going through a tough time when their parents are going through the divorce. If possible, make it easy for the kids to adjust to the changes that are coming their way. Talk less about the process of the divorce and the arguments that you may have with your spouse. Instead, help them refocus their energies on homework and other school activities. Although you may want to talk to your kids about the divorce, limit the information that you share with them. Save them from all the nasty details of the divorce.
To lessen the chances of making mistakes that you might regret later, there are a couple of things that you need to keep in mind. This list contains the basic things you shouldn’t do while you are going through the process.