Are you contemplating on filing for divorce? The decision to file for divorce is a critical one as it comes with consequences that will last a lifetime, especially when there are children involved. It is a decision that should not be rushed or made without getting legal advice from a lawyer.
But how do you know that divorce may be the only thing left to do? Here are some questions you should ask yourself that will help you arrive at a decision:
• Is there still an emotional connection between you and your husband?
Do you not love your husband anymore or are the marital problems getting in the way of how you feel about him? If there is still love, then you should both work on resolving the issues before deciding on ending the marriage in a divorce. Don’t allow feelings of frustration to overshadow the love that could still fix the problems. When you consult with a divorce lawyer for the first time, this may be one of the questions you’ll be asked. When that time comes, it is important that you know what to answer and that you are confident about it.
• Why did you consider filing for divorce?
Divorce lawyers often tell their patients that the only right decision for a divorce is one that is stripped of the emotional baggage that it usually comes with. When women make the decision to file for the divorce, most of them do it while they are dealing with overwhelming emotions of sadness, hurt, and hate. And lawyer often says that such type of decision-making only brings about results that people later regret.
• Is it divorce that you want?
You may think that divorce is the only solution to the unresolved problems and constant arguments that you have with your partner. Some wives even come to the point of using divorce as a way to threaten their husbands so that they would only straighten up and fight for the marriage. Perhaps what you want is not to end the marriage, but rather impose changes in the dynamics of the wedding. This is when a lawyer’s advice proves helpful. Their legal perspective will allow you to see things from a different light.
Can you go through the divorce process and get out of it feeling better about yourself? Talking with a lawyer will help you come up with realistic expectations as what could happen. Your lawyer will help you become more honest about how you feel about yourself, your partner and the marriage. Stop and talk to a lawyer before you step into dealing with a whole new process.